Love is one of those loaded, four-letter words. Misunderstood, it can bring to a world of hurts and disappointments. Properly understood, it can also lead to something wonderful.
In the world of duality, love always has an opposite - hate. The outcome of a conditional love is usually predictable. Sometimes this love is often referred with a motion of falling, as in "falling in love" where the person is caught off guard or even surprised. Evidently, falling does not conjure an image of very mindful activity.
Understandably we humans all have certain biological imperatives to fulfill. At some point, chasing and selecting a mate becomes all important. There is no denying in that. It is very real both physically and mentally. However, the ritual to marry or promise an exclusive love, as tradition dictates, could only result in a world of separation. That is why divorce very seldom ends amicably. Why does love has to be exclusive and if not so, fears arise? How about agape or the brotherly, sisterly love? Does this vow of marriage, on top of vows already made, prevents fears and the side effects of all conditional love?
To many, vows are as easily made as broken. Words and concepts can only carries as far as the conditions they contain. As we all have known, lying is not wholesome. But lying to oneself, intentional or not, could only bring a even deeper misalignment from the truth. In reflection, how much of our values are learned as truth and how much of them are realized through actualization? Perhaps, we are more than what we are told and capable of that!
If love is the solution to every situations, could there be enough love for everyone? The answer is a resounding - YES! If the intent of the love is conditional and exclusive, then within duality, its opposite effect is unavoidable. However, when a love that has become a way of life which radiates unconditionally without exclusivity, this love has no opposite, therefore is not subject to decay. It will be lasting and enough.
Living in a world of choices, how to love healthily is not just another choice but a vital one. Everyday, we are bombarded with messages of importance and appearance of love. Unfortunately, we are as busy loving as hating or being hated. Perhaps, it is just as important to know how to love as to love. Still, I believe it's possible to change when something doesn't work, don't you?
When we engaged in a true love that has no opposite, all fears would subside where a life awaits with endless possibilities. But if we insist to love conditionally, then let's be honest and accept whatever consequences that love brings. However, what you want may not always be best for you; I wish everybody the wisdom to see the difference.
